Oracle Of Ybor: What the Tarot Cards Say About Rest and Rejuvenation for 2022 | Columns | Tampa
Dear Oracle, after two years of this pandemic, I am exhausted and exhausted through the badvice. My brain is burnt out and emotionally I feel like a raw nerve. I feel like all I need is “rest”, but no matter how many hours I sleep or how many hours vegetate, I’m always tired. So how can I feel rested and rejuvenated in this New Year?—Fried in Florida
Cards: Queen of Cups reversed, Seven of Cups, First Quarter, The Emperor
Dear Fried, as someone who recently found themselves crying in a Toyota commercial, I sympathize with feeling like a “raw nerve.” This little war is still raging, and personally, I don’t know anyone who is going through this pandemic completely unscathed. It’s a tough time, my dear, and I’m sorry you’re having trouble.
When I pulled your cards out, I placed them as “what kind of rest do you need”, “how to get that rest”, “how to maintain” and “what will that rest lead to”.
For starters, the kind of rest you need is queen of cuts, and you’ve been needing it for a long time. Cups are a collection of emotions and relationships, and part of the reason you might feel exhausted is that you might be in a gatekeeper role for a lot of other people’s feelings. Dr Saundra Dalton-Smith talks about seven types of rest you need, and she writes about emotional and social rest as having the space to be yourself without anyone being pleasurable.
If this rings true for you, see if there’s a place where you feel like you can relax. Do you have friends with whom you may be vulnerable? Someone you can talk crazy shit with? (Full hug!) It might help, especially if you feel like most of your relationships are one-sided.
If the above does not seem true to you, the answer might be spiritual rather than social rest. The Cups are also a costume of mystery, the unconscious and the Divine. The Queen of Cups is on the threshold between worlds, holding a Grail – in some decks it’s literally the Holy Grail – and it wouldn’t be out there to see that as a sign to examine your spiritual beliefs.
If you are a spiritual person, what is your practice like? For example, could you make time in the morning for prayer or practice? Could you imagine yourself doing something immersive like a silent retreat? Join a meditation circle? Become a nun?
Consider what you would like and get a little tough with it. Because sleeping too long and falling asleep, while pleasant, won’t do it for you.
For “how to rest” we have the Seven of Cups, which is an array of options, including those that are not ideal for you. In this case, I think you might need the “self-control” option rather than “self-indulgence”. While self-care seems to have become a shortcut for bath bombs and sheet masks, it’s also about doing more difficult things, like taking care of your health and getting out of a depressive episode. (It could be. If you can, consider seeing a therapist or doctor about this.)
Whether spiritual or social, really think about what you need and set limits around it. If it’s social, plan for a time when you don’t need to be anyone’s keeper. If it’s spiritual, make time for your practice and do it daily.
Forgive the irony of that phrase, but to maintain your state of rest you need a plan of action. The first quarter moon map is one of decision making and challenge taking. It pushes you to grow taller, and in this case, I think it really means looking at what is wearing you down and sticking with a plan to help heal that.
I know it’s a lot easier to write than it is to do. We humans are, unfortunately, humans, and sometimes we will go back to our old ways or break out of our routine, no matter how much it helps or feels good. But try to be zen about it, accept your humanity and start over.
At the end of the “active rest” trip, we meet up with The Emperor. It is a card of action and leadership, of elevation to the height of your own power. Maintaining your practice of social or spiritual rest and following the path you’ve set for yourself will help you flourish. The Emperor is a figure of self-control and authority; he is a diplomat but people don’t like him.
If you are on the road to social rest, it is a call to trust your own authority. You don’t have to please everyone. You don’t have to be everyone’s dumping ground or sounding board. Instead, you can set those boundaries and know that they’re helping you become your best.
If you are on the path to “spiritual rest” then consider what it would mean to be an authority in your faith. What does a spiritual vocation look like to you? Do you want to attend the seminar? Do you want to make your faith a more central part of your life? Do you want to become a rabbi, a yoga teacher or a nun?
Neither path has an easy answer, but hopefully you can find some healing and rest and give yourself time to recuperate so that you can flourish.
For what it’s worth, the cups are also the water costume, and the queen of cups has her throne on a beach. So, it might not hurt to take this image literally and spend some time around the water, be it the gulf, a river, or a swimming hole. Of course, that won’t solve everything, but it could be a relaxing first step at the start of your journey.
Take care, my dear. May next year bring you the rest you need.